Not being authentic is a big problem in dating if you’re attempting to be someone you’re not when looking for the love of your life. Many women are taught in childhood to be pleasers and to cater to their man’s wishes, and often that means we act as the person we think our man would want to be with instead of who we really are when in the courting process of a relationship.
Unfortunately, this undermines everything you say you’re looking for, because most people have on their list of qualities that they want someone who’s honest; fun to be with, comfortable in their own skin, etc. Yet if you’re not being true to yourself and are pretending to be something else, how can you line up with someone who’s being true to themselves? It just doesn’t add up. [Read more…]
One of the most frequent things I observe when working with clients is their lack of willingness to face the pain and trauma of the one thing that trips them up most when looking for love – their childhood. It’s understandable to a degree since we’re programmed to move toward pleasure and away from pain; however our soul came here for the experience of the contrast of our existence, and to find our way back to peace. The choice to remain mired in the pain of our childhood wounds keeps us stuck. When the pain of staying stuck becomes greater than the pain of pushing through and Healing your Heartaches, you will do the work and change, which will allow you to finally attract the high quality love you’ve been looking for, for so long. 
