Embrace Where you are and Live Each Day Fully

It’s interesting how our priorities change when we’re in our 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and 60’s.  Mary Kay Ash stated it so well:

  • From 14 to 40 a woman needs good looks
  • From 40 to 60 she needs personality
  • And from 60 on I’m here to tell you a woman needs CASH!

All kidding aside, I’m finding that in my 40’s I am eager to work, but I prefer a more relaxed and meaningful nature to my work.  I’ve also learned that I have the ability to design my life how I want it to be.  I didn’t use to believe that.  But now that I love myself more, I’ve practiced manifesting at small levels, moved to bigger levels, and because I’m willing to take responsibility for everything that appears in my life, I have found how to create in a significant way.

20131231-103515The most important thing I’ve learned while on the planet is to embrace where I am.  It doesn’t matter that I would like to lose 50 pounds; I still love myself as the person I am today.  I don’t want to wish my life away or lose precious minutes griping about how I look.  When I’m ready to change I will, and in the meantime I will do what feels right for my mind, body & spirit.  If I feel like going for a walk I do.  If I feel like sitting on the couch watching a movie with my honey, I do.  If it feels good to play with my dog I do.

Reflecting on the past, or griping about your current weight, finances, friends, family, etc. only for the purpose of complaining or beating yourself up doesn’t serve your highest good.  If you’re analyzing to help make positive changes in your life, allow yourself to purge your emotions or have a 5 minutes pity party and then move toward positive change in a productive manner.

Liking yourself, loving yourself, and accepting yourself exactly as you are right now, are powerful messages that influence the types and quality of conversations you have with yourself.  Make your mind a powerful point of creation rather than a sadistic haven where you relive past failures.  Here’s how you begin to initiate that change:

  1. Set your intention for how you want to think, feel, and act.  I remember in the sixth grade I was very shy.  I wanted to be popular and more outgoing.  I specifically set my mind to being more of an extrovert that year.  I practiced smiling in the mirror.  I took a risk and started talking to people.  I invited new friends to my house to play.  Within six months I had a whole host of new friends.  This all happened in the mind of a 12 year old girl.  If she can do it, so can you. [Read more…]

Gifts from Your Relationships

gift box“Once the mind is expanded it cannot ever return to its original form or dimension.”  ~Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.

The purpose of each relationship is to take you a little further on your emotional healing journey.  We came to the planet to learn and sort out a bunch of stuff and to make our way back to the ultimate truth which is the knowledge that all there is, is Love.  Unfortunately, we chose to forget this fact and we venture out on a quest to return to that state.

Relationships are all that matter in the world because on your death bed no one wishes they worked more, rather they wish they had more time with the ones they love.  I know I’m probably hitting a spot of intense pain for you if you are not in a relationship at this time of year, however, you have many meaningful relationships in your life right now if you’ll acknowledge them.

First and foremost, there is your relationship with yourself. How have you improved over the years?  What are you proud of having accomplished?  What do you like about yourself?  I have taught for years to make a success list of things that you feel good about accomplishing and my man Mario did it for himself this year without me prodding him to. He is learning success principles as he overhears me working with others.  Make sure you use this time to reflect only on the positive aspects of your life.  If you need to have a pity party, then limit the time to five minutes and then get right back to your writing down positive things about yourself and your life. [Read more…]