Archives for November 2013

So you think your life sucks…or does it?

Everyone perceives life through their own lens.  We all personalize our stories, determine that our childhood was horrible – or just plain sucky – and we choose to stay stuck by rehashing our victim stories over and over again in our heads and to others.  It’s a challenging truth to face.  However, if you can step out of yourself and look at yourself as someone else would, I believe you would see someone way cooler than the person you see in the mirror.

We are so hard on ourselves we can’t even acknowledge our greatness.  When you can notice the good in yourself instead of everything you think is pathetic about you, you’ll be empowered to make lasting changes in your life, the lives of others, and finally be able to attract your man.  Pretend you are your best friend writing an introduction of you for an amazing event that’s being held in your honor. What’s awesome about you?  Put on your acting hat, give up your modesty and brag girlfriend, because you are INCREDIBLE!

iStock_000021610692LargeI know it sucks being alone for the holidays, but I promise you thousands of people are experiencing hardship much worse than whatever you’re currently experiencing.  While there may be people out there doing better than you, there are also people doing worse than you.  If you’re going to compare yourself to others, be equitable in your comparisons, because otherwise you’re just finding reasons to keep beating yourself up.

If you’re honest with yourself you’ll realize that your life isn’t so bad.

  • Do you have a place to live
  • Food to eat
  • Clothes on your back?
  • Family who love you?

When it comes down to it, those are the important things, and everything else is just a circumstance that you can change.  You can even change the family part by creating your own family if you don’t have one right now or one you’d rather trade in for a better functioning model. [Read more…]

Why do women settle for frogs?

Frog PrinceHow many frogs have you kissed in your lifetime?  Mario and I have a joke that it took me kissing over 100 frogs to find him.  There’s nothing wrong with kissing frogs, but why do women stay in mediocre or even abusive relationships?  Why do we settle for so much less than we deserve?

Times are changing but it wasn’t that long ago when women were taught to be subservient to men.  We were expected to cater to a man’s needs in the kitchen, living room, and bedroom.  Even though women have elevated their status in society, this acquiescent behavior extends to the boardroom, even today, as we still aren’t earning equal pay for equal work.

We were also taught not to speak up to our parents; therefore, many of us don’t have a voice in relationships because we are often dating a person who reminds us of one parent or the other. If a man speaks up for himself he’s considered confident.  If a woman asserts her position she’s a Bitch.  Isn’t it interesting however, that many men will not assert themselves in a relationship, but will make the situation so terrible that women’s hands are forced to do the dirty work? Even if a man is making our lives miserable, many of us still stay in the relationship, why is that?

I believe there are many possible reasons we subject ourselves to relationship torture: [Read more…]

Anatomy of a Success Story

My friend and client, Amanda, whom I spoke of last month, manifested her man about two years ago and they married this past June.  They have an amazing blended family similar to the Brady Bunch, but a bit smaller (check out their photo below).  Amanda shared with me at breakfast last month the things she felt most worked for her to help her Manifest her Man and I’ll be sharing them with you now.

article photoAmanda had an extremely emotional break up prior to meeting Jack.  One where her greatest fears of abandonment played themselves out as if she were experiencing a real life nightmare.  Despite the pain, devastation, sadness, and feelings of betrayal, she said she was grateful that Mike* left, because she never would have left him, and that would not have been for her highest good. 

It’s incredible when someone can heal, forgive, and then feel gratitude to such a degree that is 180 degree turn around of how she felt just a short time before.  I am so proud of Amanda for having the courage to face her demons head on.  I know it wasn’t easy for her.  This is an area where I find many of my clients get tripped up – they aren’t willing to do the work on themselves it takes in order to become better versions of themselves so they can attract a better relationship.

Amanda, and all my other clients who have found their true love, are proof that the process works and there is no getting around looking at your issues in order to move past the bad relationships you continue to attract.  So here’s a list of the things Amanda did for herself that Summer that set the wheels in motion to bring Jack into her life.  She: [Read more…]