Embrace Where you are and Live Each Day Fully

It’s interesting how our priorities change when we’re in our 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and 60’s.  Mary Kay Ash stated it so well:

  • From 14 to 40 a woman needs good looks
  • From 40 to 60 she needs personality
  • And from 60 on I’m here to tell you a woman needs CASH!

All kidding aside, I’m finding that in my 40’s I am eager to work, but I prefer a more relaxed and meaningful nature to my work.  I’ve also learned that I have the ability to design my life how I want it to be.  I didn’t use to believe that.  But now that I love myself more, I’ve practiced manifesting at small levels, moved to bigger levels, and because I’m willing to take responsibility for everything that appears in my life, I have found how to create in a significant way.

20131231-103515The most important thing I’ve learned while on the planet is to embrace where I am.  It doesn’t matter that I would like to lose 50 pounds; I still love myself as the person I am today.  I don’t want to wish my life away or lose precious minutes griping about how I look.  When I’m ready to change I will, and in the meantime I will do what feels right for my mind, body & spirit.  If I feel like going for a walk I do.  If I feel like sitting on the couch watching a movie with my honey, I do.  If it feels good to play with my dog I do.

Reflecting on the past, or griping about your current weight, finances, friends, family, etc. only for the purpose of complaining or beating yourself up doesn’t serve your highest good.  If you’re analyzing to help make positive changes in your life, allow yourself to purge your emotions or have a 5 minutes pity party and then move toward positive change in a productive manner.

Liking yourself, loving yourself, and accepting yourself exactly as you are right now, are powerful messages that influence the types and quality of conversations you have with yourself.  Make your mind a powerful point of creation rather than a sadistic haven where you relive past failures.  Here’s how you begin to initiate that change:

  1. Set your intention for how you want to think, feel, and act.  I remember in the sixth grade I was very shy.  I wanted to be popular and more outgoing.  I specifically set my mind to being more of an extrovert that year.  I practiced smiling in the mirror.  I took a risk and started talking to people.  I invited new friends to my house to play.  Within six months I had a whole host of new friends.  This all happened in the mind of a 12 year old girl.  If she can do it, so can you. [Read more…]

Happy Valentine’s Day

Happy Valentine's Day Jib Jab

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Mario and I have a LOT of fun in our relationship and we wanted to pass on this expression of the fun and love we have in our lives with you.  We hope your life is full of an ever increasing love that lifts you higher every day as ours does.  Take a minute and twenty seconds to watch and enjoy.  We hope it brings a smile to your face.  Remember, “There is GREAT LOVE here for you!”  and be sure to have a Happy Valentine’s Day even if it means being your own Best Valentine!~

Stacy and Mario Jib Jab

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Create Your Own Miracle

entitled-to-miraclesThe Course in Miracles defines a Miracle as a ‘shift in perception’.  I recently experienced a miracle in my life as I was doing some healing work on myself.  My intention for the past year and continuing through 2014 is to manifest a state of ideal health.  I had a serious wake-up call last year with the tumor I developed in my spinal cord.  I could have ended up paraplegic.

I knew surgery was the best option but I also had to deal with the thought of, “what if the doctor slipped during surgery and I ended up paralyzed anyhow?”  It was pretty intense.  Fortunately, surgery went off without a hitch.   (I have always attracted excellent surgeons.)  It’s a long road to recovery, but there have been many miracles along the way.

The Course in Miracles also says, “All thought creates form on some level.”  I realized that I created the tumor because for years I bought into feeling unloved by my mother due to neglect I experienced in childhood.  I thought I had forgiven my mother, but apparently I hadn’t.  Sometimes we think we forgive, when in reality all we do is stuff our feelings and our bodies cannot help but manifest that energy somewhere, and often it manifests some form of illness.

I experienced debilitating symptoms with respect to the tumor when driving to see my family for Thanksgiving 2012. (Although I didn’t know at that time what was wrong with me.)  For seven days after returning home, I proceeded to implement the Forgiveness Diet with a specific focus on forgiving my mom, and it worked!  By Christmas that same year, just a few short weeks later, my mom gave me everything I had been hoping for as a kid.  Most of which was her time. [Read more…]

Gifts from Your Relationships

gift box“Once the mind is expanded it cannot ever return to its original form or dimension.”  ~Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.

The purpose of each relationship is to take you a little further on your emotional healing journey.  We came to the planet to learn and sort out a bunch of stuff and to make our way back to the ultimate truth which is the knowledge that all there is, is Love.  Unfortunately, we chose to forget this fact and we venture out on a quest to return to that state.

Relationships are all that matter in the world because on your death bed no one wishes they worked more, rather they wish they had more time with the ones they love.  I know I’m probably hitting a spot of intense pain for you if you are not in a relationship at this time of year, however, you have many meaningful relationships in your life right now if you’ll acknowledge them.

First and foremost, there is your relationship with yourself. How have you improved over the years?  What are you proud of having accomplished?  What do you like about yourself?  I have taught for years to make a success list of things that you feel good about accomplishing and my man Mario did it for himself this year without me prodding him to. He is learning success principles as he overhears me working with others.  Make sure you use this time to reflect only on the positive aspects of your life.  If you need to have a pity party, then limit the time to five minutes and then get right back to your writing down positive things about yourself and your life. [Read more…]

So you think your life sucks…or does it?

Everyone perceives life through their own lens.  We all personalize our stories, determine that our childhood was horrible – or just plain sucky – and we choose to stay stuck by rehashing our victim stories over and over again in our heads and to others.  It’s a challenging truth to face.  However, if you can step out of yourself and look at yourself as someone else would, I believe you would see someone way cooler than the person you see in the mirror.

We are so hard on ourselves we can’t even acknowledge our greatness.  When you can notice the good in yourself instead of everything you think is pathetic about you, you’ll be empowered to make lasting changes in your life, the lives of others, and finally be able to attract your man.  Pretend you are your best friend writing an introduction of you for an amazing event that’s being held in your honor. What’s awesome about you?  Put on your acting hat, give up your modesty and brag girlfriend, because you are INCREDIBLE!

iStock_000021610692LargeI know it sucks being alone for the holidays, but I promise you thousands of people are experiencing hardship much worse than whatever you’re currently experiencing.  While there may be people out there doing better than you, there are also people doing worse than you.  If you’re going to compare yourself to others, be equitable in your comparisons, because otherwise you’re just finding reasons to keep beating yourself up.

If you’re honest with yourself you’ll realize that your life isn’t so bad.

  • Do you have a place to live
  • Food to eat
  • Clothes on your back?
  • Family who love you?

When it comes down to it, those are the important things, and everything else is just a circumstance that you can change.  You can even change the family part by creating your own family if you don’t have one right now or one you’d rather trade in for a better functioning model. [Read more…]

Why do women settle for frogs?

Frog PrinceHow many frogs have you kissed in your lifetime?  Mario and I have a joke that it took me kissing over 100 frogs to find him.  There’s nothing wrong with kissing frogs, but why do women stay in mediocre or even abusive relationships?  Why do we settle for so much less than we deserve?

Times are changing but it wasn’t that long ago when women were taught to be subservient to men.  We were expected to cater to a man’s needs in the kitchen, living room, and bedroom.  Even though women have elevated their status in society, this acquiescent behavior extends to the boardroom, even today, as we still aren’t earning equal pay for equal work.

We were also taught not to speak up to our parents; therefore, many of us don’t have a voice in relationships because we are often dating a person who reminds us of one parent or the other. If a man speaks up for himself he’s considered confident.  If a woman asserts her position she’s a Bitch.  Isn’t it interesting however, that many men will not assert themselves in a relationship, but will make the situation so terrible that women’s hands are forced to do the dirty work? Even if a man is making our lives miserable, many of us still stay in the relationship, why is that?

I believe there are many possible reasons we subject ourselves to relationship torture: [Read more…]

Anatomy of a Success Story

My friend and client, Amanda, whom I spoke of last month, manifested her man about two years ago and they married this past June.  They have an amazing blended family similar to the Brady Bunch, but a bit smaller (check out their photo below).  Amanda shared with me at breakfast last month the things she felt most worked for her to help her Manifest her Man and I’ll be sharing them with you now.

article photoAmanda had an extremely emotional break up prior to meeting Jack.  One where her greatest fears of abandonment played themselves out as if she were experiencing a real life nightmare.  Despite the pain, devastation, sadness, and feelings of betrayal, she said she was grateful that Mike* left, because she never would have left him, and that would not have been for her highest good. 

It’s incredible when someone can heal, forgive, and then feel gratitude to such a degree that is 180 degree turn around of how she felt just a short time before.  I am so proud of Amanda for having the courage to face her demons head on.  I know it wasn’t easy for her.  This is an area where I find many of my clients get tripped up – they aren’t willing to do the work on themselves it takes in order to become better versions of themselves so they can attract a better relationship.

Amanda, and all my other clients who have found their true love, are proof that the process works and there is no getting around looking at your issues in order to move past the bad relationships you continue to attract.  So here’s a list of the things Amanda did for herself that Summer that set the wheels in motion to bring Jack into her life.  She: [Read more…]

Remain True to Yourself

stacyNot being authentic is a big problem in dating if you’re attempting to be someone you’re not when looking for the love of your life.  Many women are taught in childhood to be pleasers and to cater to their man’s wishes, and often that means we act as the person we think our man would want to be with instead of who we really are when in the courting process of a relationship.

Unfortunately, this undermines everything you say you’re looking for, because most people have on their list of qualities that they want someone who’s honest; fun to be with, comfortable in their own skin, etc.  Yet if you’re not being true to yourself and are pretending to be something else, how can you line up with someone who’s being true to themselves?  It just doesn’t add up. [Read more…]

Healing your Heartaches

Clearing up emotional wounds from the past so you can attract love into your life Now!

Healing HeartOne of the most frequent things I observe when working with clients is their lack of willingness to face the pain and trauma of the one thing that trips them up most when looking for love – their childhood.   It’s understandable to a degree since we’re programmed to move toward pleasure and away from pain; however our soul came here for the experience of the contrast of our existence, and to find our way back to peace.  The choice to remain mired in the pain of our childhood wounds keeps us stuck.  When the pain of staying stuck becomes greater than the pain of pushing through and Healing your Heartaches, you will do the work and change, which will allow you to finally attract the high quality love you’ve been looking for, for so long. [Read more…]

101 Acts of Self Love


  • Treat yourself to a bath today and caress your body with wonderful salts, gels, and oils #MYMSL
  • Take a 10 minute walk today for no reason other than to soak up the sights, sounds, and smells of nature. #MYMSL
  • Commit to only saying kind words to yourself today #MYMSL
  • Do something for someone else just because… #MYMSL
  • Give yourself permission to read a book – take the entire day if you like. #MYMSL
  • What is something you’ve always wanted to do? Find a girlfriend to go do it with you, or go alone #MYMSL
  • When was the last time you had a pedicure? If you have one regularly go for the gusto and get the spa version this time. #MYMSL
  • Why not take yourself to dinner tonight? #MYMSL
  • Visit a sick ward in a pediatric hospital and bring Teddy Bears! #MYMSL [Read more…]