“Once the mind is expanded it cannot ever return to its original form or dimension.” ~Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.
The purpose of each relationship is to take you a little further on your emotional healing journey. We came to the planet to learn and sort out a bunch of stuff and to make our way back to the ultimate truth which is the knowledge that all there is, is Love. Unfortunately, we chose to forget this fact and we venture out on a quest to return to that state.
Relationships are all that matter in the world because on your death bed no one wishes they worked more, rather they wish they had more time with the ones they love. I know I’m probably hitting a spot of intense pain for you if you are not in a relationship at this time of year, however, you have many meaningful relationships in your life right now if you’ll acknowledge them.
First and foremost, there is your relationship with yourself. How have you improved over the years? What are you proud of having accomplished? What do you like about yourself? I have taught for years to make a success list of things that you feel good about accomplishing and my man Mario did it for himself this year without me prodding him to. He is learning success principles as he overhears me working with others. Make sure you use this time to reflect only on the positive aspects of your life. If you need to have a pity party, then limit the time to five minutes and then get right back to your writing down positive things about yourself and your life. [Read more…]
One of the most frequent things I observe when working with clients is their lack of willingness to face the pain and trauma of the one thing that trips them up most when looking for love – their childhood. It’s understandable to a degree since we’re programmed to move toward pleasure and away from pain; however our soul came here for the experience of the contrast of our existence, and to find our way back to peace. The choice to remain mired in the pain of our childhood wounds keeps us stuck. When the pain of staying stuck becomes greater than the pain of pushing through and Healing your Heartaches, you will do the work and change, which will allow you to finally attract the high quality love you’ve been looking for, for so long. 
Remember the movie Runaway Bride with Julia Roberts and Richard Gere? There’s a breakfast scene where Richard Gere asks Julia Roberts what kind of eggs she likes. Her response is “Whatever you’re having.” She had no clue how she liked her eggs because she always ate them however the man she was with at the time ate them. He said “No, what kind of eggs do you like?” And they proceeded to try all the different ways one could eat eggs, until she decided for herself that she preferred eggs benedict. 
